May 25, 2013
On being clueless

dearcoquette:

I’m 18. I like porn but I don’t feel the tiniest desire to have sex in real life. Plus, I don’t even know which gender I want to do it with. I find both equally attractive. What the hell is going on?


Of course you like porn. Porn is junk food. It’s is cheap, artificially sweetened, and readily available. Like all teenagers, you scarf it down without a second thought. Problem is, your burgeoning sexuality needs some actual nutrition, but no one wants to eat their fucking vegetables.

Sex in real life is complicated. It involves all sorts of confusing emotions. You face the potential for rejection, embarrassment, and shame. It can be messy when you know what you’re doing, and you don’t have a fucking clue.

That’s kind of the point. You think you have a clue because you saw it in a porno, but you don’t. Allow yourself to be clueless. You’re supposed to be wondering what the hell is going on.

Everything you’re feeling is perfectly normal, and you should take all the time you need to figure out your sexuality. You don’t have to pick a gender. You don’t have to start having sex until you’re ready, and when you do, you sure as hell shouldn’t compare it to anything you’ve seen in porn.

I am starting to suspect she is writing her own questions.

Nah. It’s just life.

May 25, 2013

two-coloured:

I’m not sure how to start making art, it all seems like a waste of time.

I like going to the archive page of interesting new tumblrs I see and checking out their first post.

May 24, 2013
i am multitudes. I am everything you can think of.

i am multitudes. I am everything you can think of.

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May 24, 2013
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When was super depressed, I wasn’t working—I was always too depressed. Hemingway did his best work when he didn’t drink, then he drank himself to death and blew his head off with a shotgun. Someone asked John Cheever, “What’d you learn from Hemingway?” and he said “I learned not to blow my head off with a shotgun.” I remember going to the Michigan poetry festival, meeting Etheridge Knight there and Robert Creeley. Creeley was so drunk—he was reading and he only had one eye, of course, and had to hold his book like two inches from his face using his one good eye. But you look at somebody like George Saunders—I think he’s the best short story writer in English alive—that’s somebody who tries very hard to live a sane, alert life.

You’re present when you’re not drinking a fifth of Jack Daniel’s every day. It’s probably better for your writing career, you know? I think being tortured as a virtue is a kind of antiquated sense of what it is to be an artist.

"

In an interview with The FixMary Karr debunks the toxic mythology that it is necessary to be damaged in order to be creative. My own vehement defiance to that mythology is what led me to choose Ray Bradbury – the ultimate epitome of creating from joy rather than suffering – as the subject of my contribution to The New York Times’ The Lives They Lived.

Pair with Karr on why writers write.

(via explore-blog)

It took me a long time to understand this.

When creating while depressed (and sometimes drinking) my work felt I was yelling underwater while waves crashed overhead. Unstructured and flailing efforts. There were occasions when my inhibitions and barriers were lowered enough that I did face some things that I had buried deep but that can be a fine line to dance on.

I don’t regret those times, it was part of my growth process. I don’t know if it had to happen the way it did but I am in a much better place today and I know I’m heading in the right direction so I see no point in saying I should’ve done something differently.

My work is still exploring some rather dark subject matter (which I haven’t posted anywhere, I’m keeping it close at the moment) but it feels different. There is a level of disconnect from the awful events I’m still trying to make sense of but my therapist thinks I’m doing it in a healthy way. I’m confronting it and putting things into a context that I have established, not being overwhelmed, reacting and creating out of desperation.

I don’t know if it’s my best work but it doesn’t matter. There’s a clarity and focus that I’m finding that feels right… and my work isn’t tearing me apart.

(via artcomingoutofmyfists)

meanwhile i just opened a bottle of rose.

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May 24, 2013
"I don’t give a shit what the world thinks. I was born a bitch, I was born a painter, I was born fucked. But I was happy in my way. You did not understand what I am. I am love. I am pleasure, I am essence, I am an idiot, I am an alcoholic, I am tenacious. I am; simply I am…You are a shit."

Frida Kahlo, from an unsent letter to Diego Rivera (via dansaires)

crush

(Source: violentwavesofemotion, via bitchfaceart)

May 24, 2013
"

When was super depressed, I wasn’t working—I was always too depressed. Hemingway did his best work when he didn’t drink, then he drank himself to death and blew his head off with a shotgun. Someone asked John Cheever, “What’d you learn from Hemingway?” and he said “I learned not to blow my head off with a shotgun.” I remember going to the Michigan poetry festival, meeting Etheridge Knight there and Robert Creeley. Creeley was so drunk—he was reading and he only had one eye, of course, and had to hold his book like two inches from his face using his one good eye. But you look at somebody like George Saunders—I think he’s the best short story writer in English alive—that’s somebody who tries very hard to live a sane, alert life.

You’re present when you’re not drinking a fifth of Jack Daniel’s every day. It’s probably better for your writing career, you know? I think being tortured as a virtue is a kind of antiquated sense of what it is to be an artist.

"

In an interview with The FixMary Karr debunks the toxic mythology that it is necessary to be damaged in order to be creative. My own vehement defiance to that mythology is what led me to choose Ray Bradbury – the ultimate epitome of creating from joy rather than suffering – as the subject of my contribution to The New York Times’ The Lives They Lived.

Pair with Karr on why writers write.

(via explore-blog)

(Source: , via merlin)

May 24, 2013
“People seldom do what they believe in. They do what is convenient, then repent.”

friendsofaiweiwei:

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Happy Birthday:  Bob Dylan is 72 Years Old Today. 

May 24, 2013
"Always be trustworthy to others. Live your life in such a way that others can trust you. Do this, and you’ll find that others will come to your defense when you need defending. Others will want you to succeed. It won’t insulate you from failure, but it will make failures more tolerable, and recovery more achievable."

— Quite enjoyed this little article, and this stood out to me right now; I’m facing a professional challenge and how do I get out of this? By being trustworthy; making sure they did not put their trust in me erroneously. Class of 2013: You Can’t Make a Living Just by Solving Problems | LinkedIn

May 24, 2013
nevver:

I don’t really know what I’m doing

nevver:

I don’t really know what I’m doing

May 24, 2013
"It doesn’t make sense to call ourselves ugly, because we don’t really see ourselves. We don’t watch ourselves sleeping in bed, curled up and silent with chests rising and falling with our own rhythm. We don’t see ourselves reading a book, eyes fluttering and glowing. You don’t see yourself looking at someone with love and care inside your heart. There’s no mirror in your way when you’re laughing and smiling and happiness is leaking out of you. You would know exactly how bright and beautiful you are if you saw yourself in the moments where you are truly yourself."

— you do not see yourself (via obsessivecompulsive)

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